THE witness of a coach's wife


“What in the world is that coach thinking?”

“Poor coaching is what lost that game for us.”

“Is that coach even watching the same game we are?”

“Does he even really care about these kids?”

As a fan sitting in the bleachers at a game, you hear comments like these and either agree or cringe. Try to imagine if you were sitting in the bleachers, hearing these comments and they were not about just “some coach” but they were about your husband, THE coach!

Welcome to a game in the life of a coach’s wife. This was a tough journey Brooke Taylor faced with her husband, Grant, in the movie, Facing the Giants. Parents all around her were not happy with his coaching.

For most of us, we know what we signed on for when we married these men who are called coaches. We know it means lots of practices, late night games, early morning lifting, any time film time, and time away from families. But we aren’t playing the martyr roll…it’s not all bad. Seeing the positive relationships develop between our husbands and their athletes, the mentoring relationships between our children and the athletes, the joy of the big win and even though it’s tough, the life lessons taught to the team by our husbands after the big loss, balance out this coaching equation.

Coaching does not happen in a vacuum sealed bubble (even though times I really wish it did). It happens in very public bleachers, in very public high schools, with many of the public very willing to give their opinion, educated or not, about the job of the coach. And where does that leave the coach’s wife? Literally, sitting in the middle of it all. 

As coach’s wives who are also women of faith, what do you do in the middle of that crowd jeering your husband? We pray!! We pray for patience. We pray for peace. We pray for wisdom. That’s what Brooke is learning and experiencing in the scene shown in the picture above. She is keeping herself calm and praying for her husband in the midst of the chaos.

Not only do we pray for our own situations in the quietness of our spirit, but we also pray for other women in the same position. May we be reminded from Hebrews 12:1-2, “Since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin that so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” 

Not only are we surrounded by great witnesses of Christ in Scripture, but let us as coaches’ wives also be great witnesses to one another and our community of running the race of each season with the joy and endurance God gives us! God has placed not just our husbands, but us too, in the role we each are in. Let’s take advantage of it and use it for God’s glory!

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